Power doesn't always mean an ego trip. In its first sense, power simply means energy. When you're disconnected from someone—a friend, a relative or a romantic partner— the energy can be so intense it's blown a fuse, and you find yourself with a broken relationship.
If a relationship with someone you love has been broken, you can use these energy principle-based exercises to transmit healing energy to the relationship, even if that person is far removed from your life.
Let LifeParticles Make the Leap
Sometimes, the rift is so deep it's too dangerous to try to reconnect. Your Aunt Jo hasn't been speaking to you for over ten years now and you feel that, if you attempt to leap over this canyon of estrangement, you just might fall into the abyss of her anger. This is your fear working hard to keep you disempowered. Use
LifeParticle Meditation to telegraph your message of love.
Break the Cycle Not the Circuit
Do you keep having
the same circular argument with your spouse or partner? Maybe he's withdrawn and sulking while you're a rush of negative energy.
Solar Body Method exercises such as
Plate Balancing Exercise will help you balance your emotions and set your energy on a healthy circuit again. Then you will be better able to see each others' point of view.
Clear Your Channels
Pain and anger are powerful emotions. But remember, emotion means energy in motion. You can move through painful energies and reconnect, with your own emotions and with each other, through
meridian clearing exercises. These exercises
help release stuck, overpowering emotions from your energy body so you can think more rationally.
Keep a Journal
It's helpful to
keep a journal. Every time you find yourself wanting to lash out at your loved one, channel that energy through writing. Writing from the safety of your own mind allows you to reveal unconscious beliefs and negative patterns that could be holding you back from trust and true intimacy.
Use Your Intuition
Relationships are woven throughout our lives and every relationship teaches us something about ourselves. And it takes courage to persevere in the face of rejection—real or perceived. But, if you can tune in to your higher awareness, that part of yourself that is without ego,
your intuition might offer greater insight and a stronger currency for negotiating the conflict.
Reframe Your Mirror
They say what bothers us most about another person is really a reflection of ourselves. That goes double when it comes to couples. We tend to choose partners who reflect
our own family of origin issues, as many marriage and family therapists will agree. When you are in a heightened state of negative emotions, it may be helpful to turn accusations against your partner onto yourself. Rephrase, "He's so withholding, and he's not making an effort to learn how I feel," into "I want to be more generous and open about my feelings." Then give them freely. Practice shifting the energy first. Then see how it might change the energy dynamics of the relationship.
Shifting your thinking about your role in any relationship takes courage and effort. But, by practicing these techniques to own the power of your own thoughts, you can eventually improve any relationship and change your energy for the better!
Suggested Reading:
Power vs Force: The Hidden Determinants of Human Behavior, David R. Hawkins. Details how anyone may resolve the most crucial of all human dilemmas: how to instantly determine the truth or falsehood of any statement or supposed fact.
Bowing: A Moving Meditation for Personal Transformation, Ilchi Lee. A colorful pictorial of an ancient bowing practice that you can use today to exercise both body and mind.
Loving What Is, Byron Katie. A work about a simple method for self-inquiry and discovery to end pain and suffering.